How to Behave with your Married Children?
Your children remain your children till your death but they get into their new life after getting married. This is a changed phase for them. They are in a way starting a new life of their own. They will have to deal with new responsibilities like once you did. So, once your children get married, as a parent you must step back out of their lives. For many people, marriage entails 100% loyalty to the spouse than to the family (mother and father). Children especially need to make a break from their parents after he/she takes a wife/husband. As a parent you should understand how to behave with your married children other wise, it can lead to heir break up which you wouldn’t like to have.
- Accept the reality of the situation that your children are grown up and they are in their world of making up a family.
- Do not put your children in awkward situation of having to make a choice between you and their spouse after marriage.
- Let them take their own decisions. Listen politely and very carefully to what their decisions are.
- Do not see their problem as yours. They very well know how to solve problem between them.
- Give support and guidance to help them deal with any issues, only if they seek your help
- Do not keep thinking about how to keep from losing your relationship with your children after their marriage.
- Do not complain to your children about how bad their spouse is. Even if they are bad, do not take it out on your children.
- You should be willing to make the best of whatever situation comes your way.
- Visit them at times, especially when their spouse are alone and need help.
- Do not make your son or daughter in law feel insecure of your relationship with your children.
- Be a caring person and do kind gestures.
- Accept your children’s spouse as your children.
- Set your boundaries, making them comfortable. It is always good in doing so because a small distance can easily help maintain the relationship between your married children and yourself.
- Try to take an approach that is diplomatic and not critical.